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[-] [email protected] 32 points 4 days ago

My youngest and I have been on our own since she was 8 months old. She's now 11. She has two older siblings and 4 nieces and nephews. She went to spend last summer with her sister and family and asked to stay through the next summer. That was July 16th 2023. Hardest decision I've made yet. But I couldn't find a reason to say no that wasn't selfish or self serving. She needed this time. Her mother hasn't been in her life and her 27 year old sister is the "mother figure" she clung to.

She will be home in a few weeks.

It's the moments like these I miss the most. Watching them in real-time discover themselves.

Anyway, y'all just take every fucking chance you get to sit still in moments like these. Enjoy them.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

Anyway, y’all just take every fucking chance you get to sit still in moments like these. Enjoy them

Hear hear!

[-] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

This hit hard.

[-] [email protected] 104 points 5 days ago

A lot of people have overlooked great things because they were waiting for something better to come along.

[-] [email protected] 23 points 5 days ago

How dare you know my life better than I

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[-] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Some of my (our) favourite moments are the times we're the most lost.


[-] [email protected] 65 points 5 days ago

My ancestors had a phrase that has become the popularized saying "today is a good day to die"


Crazyhorse being the badass he was, would yell it when charging into battle.

It's not really meant as "time to die" but more of I am ready! I am brave. I am strong. I love my family and they love me. If today is the day, so be it. I am ready for judgement!

This dad is practicing what it means.

[-] [email protected] 36 points 5 days ago

That's awesome. Sounds like your lineage is Klingon.

[-] [email protected] 35 points 5 days ago

The Lakota were the badasses that forced the US Army to surrender. The Dakota areas would be a much different place if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.

So the Klingons using that phrase has always been a lovely thing

[-] [email protected] 11 points 5 days ago

if they had the numbers to stop people from using the Oregon Trail.

They should've tried more dysentery. Worked on me.

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[-] [email protected] 23 points 4 days ago

Yooo... ever since having my first child, my daughter, it feels like time is fkin flying. Every single day at work I'm thinking to myself.. I want to be home with my family, I need to find a way out of wage slavery.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago

After my son was born I would get up in the morning, usually before he and wife were awake, go to work. When I got home from work I would be lucky to see him for an hour before my wife put him to bed. Hardly ever saw him.

Then the pandemic happened, he just turned two at the time. I was then told to work from home. It was brilliant. I got to spend so much time with my son. I still work from home now but he's at school these days.

The pandemic was not kind to a lot of people but for me personally I have great memories because of it.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Damn, this is about the same scenario with me. But after being laid off in my last role, which was remote, I got stuck into a role where I have to be on-site. I'm still applying to remote roles, I can't settle for on-site work especially when 90% of my work can all be done through PC/Internet access.

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[-] [email protected] 48 points 5 days ago

I do this with my daughter while waiting for her therapy appointment. We sit in the park across the street and eat a happy meal while chatting. I don't know if it's the therapy or the time together but she's so much more balanced since we started this I'm good paying for the therapy even if it's our conversations that are making that difference.

It's one of the highlights of my week, and I'm about to leave the office to go grab her for it.

[-] [email protected] 22 points 5 days ago

I'm pretty sure both are helping. Good on you. Keep it up.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago

This is absolutely beautiful and it’s making me cry. Therapy is so important and so is time with you, just enjoying each other’s company, being relaxed. Precious moments.

[-] [email protected] 35 points 5 days ago

Well done, OP, for realizing it in the moment!

[-] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago

It's actually pretty easy. Look around you and be grateful for what you have and stop thinking about all the things you don't have.

If you're waking up on a rainy Monday and not hating your life, you're doing pretty well.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

I love rainy Mondays

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[-] [email protected] 33 points 5 days ago

This kind of thing is seriously the best that life gets. Being able to recognize those moments and appreciate them is one of the best skills somebody can obtain. Mindfulness meditation and stoic philosophy have helped me immensely in being able to appreciate these types of situations for the real value that they have.

[-] [email protected] 23 points 5 days ago

As a father of a toddler, I try to appreciate every day and not take these types of moments for granted.

I'm very mindful of the fact that this time I'm living in right now is the period of my life that I'll revisit in my memories on repeat when I'm an old man.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

What wise réalisation, wow... I hope it bears much nostalgic fruit for you to enjoy in your golden years.

I've been eating my past a bit too much lately. Got to remember to do like you, and make something for the future to eat too

[-] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago

Every Wednesday I take my daughter to scouts. After scouts we take an unnecessarily long way home, playing music we like at each other and chatting. It's a highlight of my week too.

[-] [email protected] 24 points 5 days ago

My little one and I had a secret thrill together. He had a very early commitment on Saturday, so we’d go to Friendlys after. It was still pretty early so families would be there eating breakfast, while we were “those” people with an ice cream Sundae. All those kids would be so jealous thinking my little one got to have ice cream for breakfast, and I always got glares from exasperated parents. Little did they know we’d been up for hours, already had a good breakfast while it was still dark, and had already spent more time doing stuff together than many of them would the entire rest of the day

[-] [email protected] 34 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

The only time that exists is the present. Enjoy it!

Don't live in the past or the future, they existed and they will exist, but they don't exist. Only the present does.

[-] [email protected] 26 points 5 days ago

It's choir and a local sub shop for my me and my daughter.

Also, our constant argument about who is better, Alastor or Vox.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago

Whoever she says is better, is better.

Trust me on this one, the ROI is unmatched.

[-] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

Too late. T-shirts already ordered.

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[-] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago

I spent my childhood sitting in the back of a car whilst my mum and her best mate would moan about men every night, or following them around to see if they were in the pub getting pissed so she could go and throw drinks at him.

One day we came home as we were being burgled, probably my people my step dad knew.

I would have taken ballet and ice cream, even as a dude.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 5 days ago

I want this but I can't even take care of myself, let alone another human. :(

[-] [email protected] 6 points 5 days ago

I believe in you. :)

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[-] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago

I miss those days.

But children must become teenagers.

Nasty, ignorant, disrespectful teenagers.

Otherwise, we'd never let them leave and become adults.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

Fun to joke about but activities with my teens are still my highlights. They don’t have to be the stereotype.

The real problem is their increasing absences, their approaching independence. It’s really frustrating fostering their independence, pulling back from taking care of them, dreading their impending “graduation” into adulthood.

On the other hand at my performance review, my manager spent most of the time encouraging to get back into dating now that kids are gradually leaving, trying to give me tips and encouragement, so I got that going for me

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[-] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago

My mom and I don't have a lot in common, and I think part of it is she sometimes worries she didn't spend enough time with me as a kid because she worked so much. Her taking me to music lessons and then hot cocoa afterwards are some of my coziest memories with her.

[-] [email protected] 12 points 5 days ago

Not long enough.


[-] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

I have a 4 year old son and I absolutely love taking him to have some ice cream (he loves Yogurtland). The excitement and smile on his face when he gets a treat he likes is the thing I will think about most when I'm on my death bed. It wasn't the new car or the promotion that will cross my mind, it will be about spending time with him and doing things which make him the most happy.

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