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For me it was these.

"A focused fool can accomplish more than a distracted genius"

"Until the lion learns to write, every story will glorify the hunter"

These two quotes really helped get my @** in gear.

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[–] [email protected] 95 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

"The first thing that jumps to your mind isn't always what you truly think. Sometimes, it's just what you've been trained to think. What matters, is what you do next"

I grew up in a really racist, queerphobic environment, and that comment really helped me by letting me give myself space to undo the bigoted indoctrination I had been taught, without getting trapped in guilt and self disgust whenever one of the racist or bigoted things I was raised with jumped in to my mind.

It let me recognise the bigoted thought as something I was trained to think, rather than being what I actually believe, and by recognising it, I could disempower the thought, and start to unlearn it

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 months ago

That's a powerful thought.

Conditioning significantly influences our psyche.

These thoughts that are the result of conditioning are like knee jerk reactions.

Our brain is designed to conserve energy so it actually prioritises conditioned knee jerk reactions rather than introspective thoughts.

One needs significant amount of training to bypass this process.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Similarly if you shit talk yourself in your head to motivate yourself it really will eventually start to condition you that way even if it does motivate you

[–] [email protected] 50 points 3 months ago (2 children)

"Everyone you know is facing a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always."

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago

As someone who hasn't had to go through anything that hard, finally accepting this one was so important

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That's why whenever someone cuts me off in traffic, I say, "wow, that guy really must have to poop."

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[–] [email protected] 41 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Be excellent to each other, and party on dudes.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

It's so simple but genuinely words to live by.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 3 months ago (1 children)

a tumblr meme about replacing self deprecating humor with over the top self belief humor.

not even kidding, was doomscrolling, this jumped into my feed and burnt itself into my brain and 4 years of doing precisely that later, i'm better than ever and it's also just a way to break the ice sometimes.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Can you elaborate on the over-the-top self-belief humor?

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[–] [email protected] 30 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (9 children)

"I am somehow less interested in the weight and convolutions of Einstein's brain than in the near certainty that people of equal talent have lived and died in cotton fields and sweatshops"

-Stephen Jay Gould

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 months ago (8 children)

This saying in my local tounge

Which roughly translates to

"You small, I big , this thought of world is incorrect, A Thirsty man feels the the ocean is smaller than than a glass of fresh water"

Imagine above is a really Catchy rhyming.

I don't think anyone will understand but here it is in local tounge trying to write the sound in English.

Tu nano, hu moto, e khyal jagat no koto. Tarsa ne to dariya karta loto lage moto.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

I'm unfamiliar with your language, so take this attempt at translation with a grain of salt:

You are small and I am big, this is but a fantasy of the world. For thirst is larger than the vastness of the ocean.

It's likely a metaphor for how any desire (thirst) is infinite (ocean) and cannot be satiated. By trying to resolve your desire it will only grow and increase your suffering.

This further ties into the illusionary nature of worldly matters in the first sentence. For example if you desire say friends, money, knowledge, or anything else, you'll likely have more of that than others, which makes you feel big. However these desires have grown into a prison for you, and that actually makes you smaller than someone who has found liberation from them, who might otherwise appear lonely, poor, or ignorant.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 months ago (5 children)

“You cannot love someone else until you love yourself.”

My dad raised me on this. If don’t see yourself worthy of love from even yourself, you’ll never be able to accept it from someone else. Healthy love is mutual. Also, this ties back into the idea that if you don’t see yourself worthy of love, it means you need to work on yourself until you do rather than trying to fill that gap with someone else.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
    - Ferris Bueller, from the movie Ferris Bueller's Day Off.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

I love that movie for so many reasons.

I loved that if you stayed through the credits there was a small bit there.

I think it was the first movie to do that.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 3 months ago (4 children)

“The most important step a man can take is the next one”
And
“Sometimes a hypocrite is nothing more than a man in the process of changing”

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago

”Do you miss the person or do you miss the memories?”

It really helps me get over friendship breakups and cope in a more reasonable way, since most of the time I just miss the memories associated with the person.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago

I am not older than you, i just have been young longer

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Life either a daring adventure or nothing.”

  • Helen Keller
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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago

" I use Arch btw."

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago

“There were all kinds of things I was afraid of at first, ranging from grizzly bears to ‘mean' horses and gun-fighters; but by acting as if I was not afraid I gradually ceased to be afraid.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago

When I started my now mostly unused school laptop with dualboot (Windows/Debian) at 3 AM in the basement to solve a router issue. This pretty cheap laptop booted in mere seconds to a completely usable state, sparing my tired self from waiting in the cold for too long.

Right there, in the middle of the night, a flash of inspiration struck me!

How could it be that my way too expensive desktop gaming PC took longer to be ready for everything than this old piece of plastic? What if I completely switched my main machine to Linux, not only for testing, but for real? How awesome would it be to have customization freedom and full control over my own device, without a company spying on me, taking away options or using me as their guinea pig for the next untested updates?

And that's how it began. Linux Mint as a safe start, then Kubuntu for more customization with KDE Plasma. After that, EndeavourOS for the latest software, and finally Arch Linux ... for the lulz (btw).

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If you won’t care in 10 years, don’t care now.

(In reference to bad things happening)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (2 children)

This was my approach to things even as a kid. I didn't care who got the bigger "half" between my brother and I, because I wasn't going to care once I'd eaten it. All I would remember is that I'd eaten it :)

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

"Excellence is not an act, but a habit" - Aristotle teaching that good comes from the whole, not from a single step. Focus on the whole, and the steps will follow.

"So, what's the next action for this?" - the GTD approach to task management teaching me to be specific and then go do it (or plan it, or delegate it). This really kicks me into productivity mode.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

As someone with anxiety: "the best way out is always through" - Robert Frost

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

"If you're going thru hell, keep going"

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

"Erfahrung heißt gar nichts. Man kann seine Sache auch 35 Jahre lang schlecht machen." - Kurt Tucholsky

Which DeepL translates to

"Experience means nothing. You can do a bad job for 35 years."

Not strictly life changing, but a very valuable reminder, if you need to deal with 'that' kind of person.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"Never perfect. Perfection goal that changes. Never stops moving. Can chase, cannot catch."

It's a video game quote but it helped me realise that there is always some aspect that can be changed for the better

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Here in darkness, everything's okay. Listen to the waves and let them fade away. Here comes a thought.

Here Comes a Thought from Steven Universe was genuinely life-changing for me. It's all about mindfulness and allowing yourself to process negative thoughts without punishing yourself for having them.

This episode came when I was really struggling with anxiety, like multiple crying breakdowns a week. It finally lead me to getting therapy and I'm in a much better place now, but I still come back to it when I'm feeling overwhelmed.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

"This too, shall pass"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

I’ve always prided myself on being empathetic and sympathetic to people no matter what. During the me too times, a lady was being interviewed about why survivors and victims don’t go to the authorities about their treatment from (men) powerful people.

She said something along the lines of “stand with us if you want things to change, but don’t you dare stand opposite to tell me how offended I’m allowed to be”. In an instant I realised I’d been guilty of minimizing the suffering of others simply because I’d not been through what they’d been through (in a sense - if I wouldn’t be offended why should they?). Changed my whole outlook on life actually

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"In the corporate world, nobody has any compassion, ever." - A friend told me as I was about to take my first real job. Brutal and maybe exaggerated, but exactly what I needed to manage my own expectations.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

A Corporation is:

  • an incorporated "person", that
  • is legally-obliged to be psychotic, narcissistic, machiavellian, sociopathic-psychopathic, and short-termist/nihilist, using all the systemic-dishonesty that it can, for gain
  • the only dimension of the DarkHexad that it isn't obliged to be, is sadistic.. that's optional.
  • it cannot ever be put in prison, because it's a herd, not an individual: it can dissipate, but it cannot die, or be forced to experience karma: only individuals can be truly-accountable.

( DarkHexad:

  • narcissistic
  • machiavellian
  • sociopathic-psychopathic
  • nihilist
  • sadist
  • systemic-dishonesty )

( all this to say that the legalistically-enacted-treason of granting "personhood" to corporations killed strategic-viability for all countries, and the highjacking-of-the-world's-economy AND the world's-governments, by corporations, is global unfolding proof.

What should have happened, is a separate category of pseudopersons should have been created, with systematically-limited rights, including prohibiting the things from interfering in elections,

but that would have required some real integrity & spine... )

( finally, for anybody so young/naive as to believe that charities are inherently-good, go volunteer in the management of one for a few years, & then see how you view integrity.. )

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Probably most speeches by Conan O'Brien.

"Work hard, be kind, and amazing things will happen" at 23:09 in Conan O'Brien's 2011 Dartmouth College Commencement Address: https://youtu.be/KmDYXaaT9sA

Conan Addresses The Harvard Class Of 2020: https://youtu.be/VI2B3sZ1GaY

Very riveting stuff.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

The big lez show. It a comedy on youtube that you can watch now for free. It's one of, if not the, best series I've watched and, although strange at times, is unbelievable deep. Specifically, what stuck with me was as when lez, the main character, asks sassy, his friend, how he's supposed to achieve his dreams and be happy in a world that's fucked up, and sassy tells him, "what's the first thing anyone does to start they're day? You wake up."

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

This is a very brief summary of my 2 year MBA: business school is the scientific method applied to business.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

"Do what you can, where you are, with what you've got." - Teddy Roosevelt

"There's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen

"Perfect is the enemy of good." - unknown

"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering." - Yoda

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