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I haven't dated in almost thirty years but I think what would be the worst is finding out someone is heavily conservative when you aren't. Or discovering six months into a nice relationship that he's a closet antivaxxer or something, basically where you find out something that really goes against your values. Thankfully many of those people are obnoxious and loud.
OkCupid used to map those important things people don't talk about via thousands of multiple choice questions, and you used to be able to build a search filter from the answers you'd accept. Then MatchGroup/capitalism/puritans wrecked it. I don't know if there exists a good dating site anymore.
not under a system where they are rewarded for not working (and keeping their (paid!!!) users)
Agreed. I wish the quiet ones had better ways to find each other. Reminds me of a poem I'll try to dig up.
Slightly different context, I suppose
Shel Silverstein!
Is that the author? ๐คฏ
Yeah! Children's poems.
TIL. Thanks for that!