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I don't want kids so that narrows down the dating pool to something more like a dating puddle.
I generally keep to myself. Every social skill I have comes from deliberate practice.
I did manage to find a girl. What I did:
Figure out what my strengths are and in what situations I get to show them. I get compliments on having a pleasant voice. So anywhere I'll talk some is good.
Work on mitigating your weaknesses.
Work on being a {pick one or more: fun/pleasant/useful/positive/etc} person to be around.
What I did not tell you is how long I had to do this.
Oddly enough I've had more people I'm interested in not want kids than do.