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For those who struggle with dating, what do you consider to be your biggest hurdle? (lemmy.ml)

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At what step do you struggle the most?

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Up until recently, I hadn’t gone out dating in over 15 years. I feel like the thing I struggle with the most is finding people who would be interested in me in a romantic/sexual way. I’m not a social butterfly by any measure, but I am able to put myself out there. I’m also not the type of guy that exudes charisma. I also have a semi-permanent resting bitch face/scowl. And at 6’3” and 260lbs, I feel that intimidate people. If I were with a group of people that I felt comfortable with, I know things would be a lot different. I also tend to overshare. 😉

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

And at 6’3” and 260lbs,

Humblebrag.

(Unless you're a lady, I guess)

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Unless he's a high level athlete, he's morbidly obese at that weight.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Maybe medically. I'm guessing he still looks average in fat Western places, though. You don't really look fat in my local terms at 6'1 until you hit 300 or so.

Source: Got close for a spell, was regarded as slightly husky. I'm back to 200 now, which I can live with. I assume some of the people I see around must be in the 400s or even 500s.

(And yes, I see the irony of posting my slight-above-average height. It was relevant here, though)