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Talking to people I don't know and initiating conversations in general. If the other person doesn't approach me first, I can't do it myself. I'm not much into dating, but it's really inconvenient for socializing in general.
I think this is my issue as well. You always hear about how women hate being approached, and I really donβt want to come across as a creep who hits on women in public.
Yes that really sucks... I'm glad I'm a straight woman so I don't have it as bad, I just don't know how guys who have the same problem manage π«€
Same. If I could skip the initial dating thing and just have an instant SO that I hang out with and enjoy, I'd be pretty happy. But I'm not good at meeting new people. Plus, after enough failed dates, it gets difficult to justify dumping more time into it. It's so mentally taxing to find someone, get to know them, meet them (and deal with the amount of anxiety that goes into that whole ordeal), it probably doesn't work out, repeat and try again. So I just hang out with my cat instead.
Oh I get that, just looking for someone has never worked for me either, it's so much effort and so little chance of working out that I just can't be bothered. The relationships I had were with people I met through common interests. Like an IRL meeting of an online RPG and stuff like that. It's so much easier to get to know people when you already have things in common, you can skip most of the annoying parts. Wish I had a cat too, though !