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People who've been to a (regular) party, what do people do there? (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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By "party", I mean a physical social gathering of people for the purposes of having fun. It may be used in a sentence as "I am throwing a party!" or "Let's party!".
Basically what I am trying to say is the default "party".

I've never been to any, and I have no idea how people spend their time on parties, so I am curious how you did.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

At the "talk and socialize" bullet, I was imagining sidling up to some group I don't know, eavesdropping on their conversation, and standing there like a creep trying to figure out the best time to say anything relevant to contribute, but failing and standing awkwardly in silence until I just walk away.

I'll stay home, thanks.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago

Haha, I can definitely understand this feeling. It can be difficult to overcome! It doesn’t always “work”, and sometimes you will just stand there awkwardly. The good news is that nobody is going to care or remember. Seriously. You’re basically an NPC to people you don’t know. I’ve been to hundreds of parties in my life and have zero tangible memories of other people’s “awkward proximity”. Nobody cares about you as much as you do, which is slightly sad but majorly liberating.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah same. I never know how to integrate into an existing group

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Make a new group consisting of you plus the members of the existing group.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

The part where you screw up is seeing yourself as a creep.

I understand others have probably said that to you enough times you just internalized it but you gotta stop believing people when they tear you down.