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A casual community for people with ADHD

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Never finished degree and I feel stuck/suicidal over it (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I started uni 2014 and I've still yet to finish it because of life BS. Dealing with depression / ADHD has made finishing my degree seem impossible for me to do and I feel like an absolute failure everyday because of it. I wasted many semesters attempting clases and then dropping out when my grades weren't good.

My parents both graduated by their early 20s and had me at 23; I'll be 29 soon and I still live with them working at a Walmart to make ends meet and even with that I'm about to be fired for poor performance. I feel depressed being there because I was given everything in life to be successful and yet I wasted my 20s away being depressed / suicidal. All of my friends all have graduated long ago and have better jobs and I get envious seeing them being successful. All I think about is splattering my brains all over the wall.

I don't have a plan to follow, every day I'm just hating myself for wasting my best years over stupid shit instead of focusing.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Dont stress over not having a degree. I have one and honestly it didn't prove anything to myself, make it a better person or any of that. I'm still paying for it. Looking back those were some of my most miserable years failing to fit in too socially. I followed some arbitrary rules and passed some classes. Guess what. It took me 7 years too. By my last year I hated my degree program and just finished because I was already in so deep. Don't let that peice of paper and societal rubber stamp make you feel like a failure. Often times I regret going to college, since honestly it wasn't a happy period for me and how I've been paying for it for 10 years now. My job I really enjoy didn't require it and I have never used my major from my degree once. I am much happier now past that part of my life and I say this with all honesty I am glad to do be here. There are so many possibilities out there. Please don't give up. A final solution to life's endless possibilities is such a tragedy Please keep going. You can do this. Seek help in therapy, friends and family. Find out what makes you happy. You got this.